by James Horton on December 1 As the story has been told, sixty-one years ago today, a Thursday, Rosa Parks, a tailor’s assistant at the Montgomery department store, left work in the late, cold evening, to catch the bus home. Sore and tired, Parks boarded and took an aisle seat, in the row immediately behind…

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In April 2016 the Women’s Leadership Project and Young Male Scholars’ in collaboration with Get Smart B4 U Get Sexy facilitated a workshop entitled “Straight Out of Rape Culture”. Women of color have the highest rates of sexual assault, sexual harassment and sex trafficking in the U.S. Our workshop focused on answering questions like: Do…

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Valuing ourselves is a key ingredient in any relationship. When we value ourselves, we believe we deserve respect, kindness and honesty. We must know this when entering a relationship. If we don’t know this when we enter a relationship, it is easy to believe we just got “lucky,” or that we hit the jackpot by…

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Black women claiming their sexuality

By Monica Groves The media is permeated with images of Black female promiscuity, ass, ass, ass, being objectified by men, and violence. The overriding message is to devalue black womanhood…and more ass. There are times when Black women in America are lost. There are times when Black women in America don’t know who they are,…

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Sexually Transmitted Disease Tests

So…something happened Either you or your partner is experiencing some odd body changes (bumps, colored discharge, bleeding during sex…) or you had unprotected sex with someone you just weren’t too sure about their status and you are starting to feel a little paranoid. First thing to do is breathe, relax and know that getting tested…

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African American woman staring into the distance

By Mo Groves Decolonize (de·col·o·nize) – To Free from Colonial Status. To allow to become self-governing or independent. As Black women we live in a world where white reigns. There are countless instances where we perpetuate and value European colonial ideals because unbeknownst to us; we have been beaten with messages of self-hate. In growing…

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#sexspeaks What is Love? Article

For some sex can be a simple equation “intimacy + pleasure = sex” … but then to many sex is something that can vary greatly and can hold its own range of binaries: “good/bad,” “healthy/traumatic,” “affirmed/stigmatized,” “with self/with others.” We have an expectation that sex is intimate, stimulates pleasure, it’s the bridging of the emotional,…

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Get Smart B4 U Get Sexy Sex Speaks April 4th Event

On April 4th at #sexspeaks, we – female identifying Women of Color – came together in an intimate space for storytelling, reflection, dialogue and healing. We found time to reflect, share and explore ways we – as Women of Color – practice self love. As Women of Color we often times are expected to be…

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Janet Jackson "That's the way Love Goes" Video Thumbnail

Not exclusive to Valentine’s Day/Evening Love makin’, sexy time … or just “get your freak on time” sometimes requires pre-planning and conversations with your partner(s) about what they like, don’t like, sexually transmitted infection history to allergies (latex can be a common allergy for some people). So, besides planning the logistics (time, place, condoms, birth control,…

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Photo of unhappy couple distressed about sex

Yvonne Wynter I crawled into his embrace as I tried to think of us as something normal. But in fact we weren’t even an “us” – a couple, partners or some form of a unit. We only lived in the moment together; casual friends who also happened to move together in similar and different ways…

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